Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions.(When and where are you asking them this?How?Why?)
1. What did you do after school yesterday? - I would ask them this question as they are coming into the room each morning. I feel this question shows them that I care about more then just school and I do truly care about them as individuals. This can also help me in teaching when I want to make things more meaningful I can spin the content in a way that matters to them.
2. How are you feeling this morning? - I ask this question as students are coming into the classroom in the morning. I would not ask every student this. I ask the ones whom I notice have a look on their face that says "something is bothering me" or "something seems off". I feel that by asking this question it shows them that I care about them. I can then ask "What can I do to help you?" After discussing with them I can maybe make their day go a little better then how it started.
3. What was the best part of your day? Asking this question really lets you know what is important to each of your students. It is also can be a great motivator to let them do this specific thing more as long as they get their work done etc.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?) 1) What has been a highlight of your weekend or week so far? 2) What do you like do to do in your free time? 3) If you could travel anywhere in the world and with whoever you wanted, where and who would it be and why?
These questions build connections because it helps to better understand who they are as individuals by figuring out things they like to do, their interests, and to give us a better understanding of how they communicate with others. I would be asking these questions either when students come to see me in my office or if I'm in a classroom. These questions also work for all age groups with both elementary, middle and high schoolers, as well as conversations can then transpire as a result of the students' answer which further builds that rapport and trust with them.
I’m really working hard with my preschoolers to use full sentences when answering or asking questions. Asking better open ended questions will continue to help me with this.
Monday morning: What was the best part of your weekend? This gives each child an opportunity to share what they did, practice speaking in full sentences, and feel like an important part of our class.
After a story: Tell me about your favorite part of the story? This will also help me to hear how they comprehended the story that was just read to them.
After PE class: What was the best part of PE today? Can you tell me more about it? Telling others about an activity can help you understand it better.
With my age group/skill level, sometimes I fall into the habit of asking very basic yes/no questions instead of more open questions. I also recognize that sometimes I fall too much into my daily routines and forget to take the time to pause and ask questions.
1. For our snack time, each student has a placemat that has pictures of their families on it. We use this as a tool to learn more about their families and home lives. Some more meaningful questions I can ask during this time would be "what games do you like to play with your brother" "what is best food your mom or dad makes for you" "what do you like to do when you get home from school or daycare"?
2. During arrival and locker routines (getting off transportation, waiting for the whole class to arrive, getting our things put away in lockers, etc.) I make a point to say greet every student. I say hello and let them know I'm happy to see them today. Asking more questions during this routine would help me start the class off on an even more positive note with each student. I hope that they could feel that I genuinely care about their life outside of school. Some questions I could add to this time of connection could be "what did you eat for breakfast" "did you talk with anyone on the bus ride here and what did you talk about" "what did you do last night with your family"?
3. Our transition from recess back into the classroom can sometimes feel hectic. Slowing down and talking with the students before starting the next thing on the schedule could help them regulate their emotions and calm down before having to sit down for snack or circle time. Some questions I could ask here are "who did you play with at recess" "what games did you play" "did you go down the slide or play on the swings"
1. One thing I do in my classroom to build relationships with students is a Friday Letter. Students have journals and every Friday they must write a letter to me. I often ask them to write about the following topics: What was your favorite part of the week? What are your plans this weekend? What are you looking forward to? Basically, they can write about anything. Then, I write a letter back to them in response! I really enjoy doing this because I get to learn their interests and activities outside of school. They often ask me questions in their writing, so I respond to those and ask questions back.
2. To gain a general understanding of students and their prior knowledge, I often find myself asking students, “Have you ever heard…?” It could be something relating to our content or something relating to everyday life. It usually results in them telling me stories of when they may have heard the phrase/content before.
3. I teach my students life skills, so I like to ask them questions like, “When would you use this in life?” or “How have you shown….” It gets the conversations flowing.
I try to find opportunities throughout the day to get to know my students better through basic questions. I also like to share my own personal life experiences with them too. During my first couple of years as a teacher, I always felt uncomfortable sharing too much of my life outside of school with my students. But as I am now in my 15th year of teaching and have had many life experiences since then, I enjoy sharing details of my life every chance I get. The students can relate to it because they know my kids, so sometimes that gets them to ask more follow-up questions.
When someone is struggling with a concept in a subject I have asked everyone to share what the hardest part of this concept. Then we talk about the issues for each person. Doing it this way everyone shares and everyone shares something that is hard.
Tell me more about that. Not really a question but when a student is talking and you say tell me more about that they know that they have your attention and can share more information.
When we have down time in classes that I am subbing in I will ask a question for students to answer. It is usually something to the effect of their favorite food, favorite thing to do in a specific season, sport, and such. I feel that doing this and having everyone answer and listen while everyone answers has built relationships between me and the students and also student to student. There has been a number of times that when a student says their answer others in the class will say oh yeah I like that too and I didn't know that you did!
I have a short 15 minutes with each reading group I support. I will base my questions on connecting with them in their academic journey. Instead of just moving on to the next group once the lesson is complete I can ask the following questions: 1. What is something you feel proud of during our time reading together? 2. Is there any part of today's time reading that was hard for you? 3. The last question may be one of randomness to engage in their personal lives more or open it to them to ask anything of me.
As a high school, School Counselor I would to address the three School Counseling domains when answering this question. One academic question I would ask is, “When you think about this class right now, what feels manageable and what feels overwhelming?” I would ask this during an individual academic meeting in my office. The purpose of this question is to move beyond grades and assignments and better understand how the student is experiencing their learning. This question communicates that I am not just interested in performance, but in their process and emotional experience. By listening closely and asking follow up questions, I can gather more meaningful information and help the student feel supported.
A career focused question I would ask is, “When you imagine yourself a few years after high school, or even in ten years, what do you imagine a day in your life looking like” I would ask this during a career exploration meeting or post-high planning meeting. I would do so without implying pressure to have everything figured out about the future. I would ask it with curiosity and openness, making it clear that this is not about having a final answer. This question helps students think beyond job titles and instead focus on values, interests, and other things of importance to them. It often leads to richer conversations about strengths, passions, goals, and fears. Asking this question builds connection because it shows genuine interest in who the student is becoming, not just what they plan to do.
A social and emotional question I would ask is, “Who is one person you feel most like yourself around, and what about that relationship makes it feel safe?” I would ask this during a one on one conversation with a student. The question may arise when a student is struggling socially or emotionally. I would ask it gently and at a pace that feels comfortable for the student, paying close attention to body language and tone. The purpose of this question is to help the student reflect on connection and belonging. It also opens the door to conversations about trust, support systems, and safety. By actively listening and responding with empathy, this question helps strengthen the relationship and gives insight into what the student needs in order to feel connected and regulated.
These types of questions reflect the importance of confidence, clarity, and intentional listening discussed in both the book and the TEDx talk. When we ask thoughtful questions and truly listen to the answers, we build deeper connections and gain a more accurate understanding of our students. That connection is what allows real growth to happen.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?) 1. What did you do last night. This helps students feel what they do is important. It also help me find books of interest and writing projects that improve their interested. It also helps me read students expression. If it was not good, I need to take it into consideration on performance, along with letting them know I am here for them if they want to talk.
2.What is a big dream or goal you have for the future? Great time to explain the right path to make their dream and goals happen, before it is to late. It is a good time to connect them with a person that is doing what their dream or career they want to do.
3. What makes you not like school. It may be something simple we can do to change the students outcome of school. Most the time it is something simple we can fix.
1. Whenever I see a kid wearing a sports jersey, band t-shirt, or any other article of clothing that hints that they like a certain kind of music or sports team, I always ask them something about it. An example would be when I see my student, Logan, wearing a University of Michigan sweatshirt and I ask him if he watched their basketball game last night. Or, if I there is a kid wearing a show choir shirt from school, I ask him or her how their last competition went. Questions like this help me establish relationships with kids in a more natural way. Sometimes, middle school students get freaked out if their teacher asks them deep and complicated questions about their performance in school or the future. 2. We do an activity in Spanish called Student Interviews. I call up two students to the front of the room and ask them a really easy yes or no question in Spanish (but I write an English translation on the board). One example would be 'do you have a dog'? I make a huge show out of their response regardless of their answer, and if the situation calls for it, I will ask one follow-up question. The students in the audience love it, and if you call up the right student, they love it too. Since it's in Spanish, it's relationship building disguised as an academic activity. 3. If I have a kid that is struggling in class, I sometimes ask them where they want to sit to help them focus better. It gives more agency to the student in their education, which is really good for students who have been defiant. It also shows that I care about their education.
1. “What’s something you’re into right now that most adults don’t know much about?”
I would ask this during the first weeks of a new semester. I could do this as an unexpected bell-ringer through a Google Forms "quiz." I would ask this because it shows them that they matter to me and that I want to get to know them better. I think that can help build trust.
2. “When do you feel most successful in school?”
I would ask this during the first week of a new semester as well. I would use a Google Form "quiz" for this one as well. I would ask them to tell me in detail in a couple of sentences. This shows that I care about who they are and that I might make an effort to help them how they often find success. It can also help me figure out new ways to help them.
3. “If I could change one thing about this class to help you learn better, what would it be?”
I would ask this question about 3-4 weeks into a new semester. I helps me build a relationship with each student by giving them an outlet for their opinions that have surely been building over the first few weeks. I lets them voice their opinions. I would use an anonymous Google Form for this one so that each student could feel empowered to speak the truth if things aren't going so well. This can also help build mutual respect, especially if issues are addressed. It shows humility as well.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
How is your day/weekend going?: I tend to do this when I notice if a student has been down or not acting like their typical self. I will usually ask them this in private because most times if it's in a bigger setting, many students will just say fine or they didn't do anything. It gives them a better opportunity to tell you what is on their mind.
What do you want to do after high school?: This has been a great conversation starter because many students have an idea of what they want to do, and showing interest in their future can be a game-changer for students and teacher relationships.
How do you learn best?: I do this in the beginning of the semester to help myself determine how to help students and for them to inform me what they do to be successful. This can also be helpful for other students who struggle as well.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
1.If I could change one thing about Math class for you to help you be more successful what would it be? I teach both math classes for our two section 3rd grade class. I also teach math interventions for students who are At Risk and Persistently At Risk for 3rd grade. I have asked this to a few of my students who have a harder time in math. One answer surprised me she asked for me to change where she sits because she can't see very well and that partner is always sharing first and not always giving her a chance. I specifically will take the time to ask this of each of my math intervention students and have them share with me individually the last minute of interventions after I have dismissed the rest of them. A lot of these students also struggle with writing, I know I will get more out of them if I ask them to share with me verbally. 2. Who inspires you to become a better writer? If they were in the room today, what would they tell you to help motivate you? I taught this 3rd grade class in 1st grade. They have as a whole struggled with reading, they made amazing progress in 2nd grade, and now the majority are doing fantastic in 3rd grade. We still have several students who struggle coming up with ideas to write about, taking the time to use the grammatical skills we have taught them to use in their writing, and taking their time to push themselves and care about how well they do on their journals or even the papers they have written this year for my co-teacher in Reading. This would be a great question to ask my students while they are independently working on their cursive or even during small group reading time. 3. What is something that you are really proud of from 3rd grade this year? While writing this blog post I'm inspired to ask this question this week as we go into conference week. I want to ask them on Monday so I can share with their grown ups on Tuesday and Thursday conferences. This time of year is hard for some students because as it starts to get warmer outside they lose motivation and I want them to see/help highlight what they are doing well to inspire them to keep working hard and trying as we wrap up the last 3 months of the school year.
“What was the best part of your day?” – I would ask this at the end of class, during our closing circle or transition time. This question helps me understand what experiences bring students joy and allows them to reflect on their day, while also giving me insight into their preferences and emotional state.
“What do you like to play with at home, and who do you play with?” – I can ask this during free play or center time. It encourages students to share their interests and social experiences, helping me connect classroom activities to what they enjoy outside of school.
“How are you feeling today?” – Ask during morning circle or arrival time. Using visual emotion cards can help students express themselves. This builds emotional literacy and shows students that their feelings matter.
What’s something you’re excited about outside of school right now?
When & Where: During the first few minutes of class, while students are settling in.
Why: This question helps the teacher learn about students’ interests (sports, hobbies, events, family activities). It shows students that their lives outside the classroom matter, which builds trust and gives the teacher opportunities to connect lessons to student interests later.
What part of today’s lesson felt easiest for you, and what part was the most confusing?
When & Where: At the end of a lesson or during an exit ticket before students leave class. Why: This question shows students that their understanding matters and that the teacher values their feedback. It also helps the teacher identify areas where students may need more support, while creating an environment where students feel safe admitting confusion.
What’s one goal you have for yourself this semester? When & Where: At the beginning of a new semester or during a one-on-one conference with a student. Why: This question encourages students to reflect on their own growth and aspirations. It helps the teacher understand what motivates each student and allows the teacher to support their academic or personal goals throughout the term.
I am in a position where it can sometimes be harder to connect with students. I am more like a guest speaker who pops in once a week. When I am not there consistently, I try my best to keep track of them on Facebook. If I have a parent on Facebook and I see them posting about their child doing something, that is where I can strike up conversations.
I also connect with them through projects since I have been the “project person.” It is easy to ask them how they are doing or if there is anything new. They will often ask what we are doing that day, and then I explain the project.
Some good questions to ask are: What are you most excited about with this project? Is this something you would like to do at home with your family? What are some projects you do at home?
That often leads to asking what they would like to do the next time I am there. This is where I can get creative and plan activities the kids like to do. A lot of times I get to be the fun person who comes in and doesn’t have to follow an exact lesson plan. I know I struggle more with connecting with the older kids.
I could start asking them more questions like: What are you excited for this summer? What are your plans after you graduate? What new skills have you learned while applying for scholarships or college? Do you need help improving any skills? And food usually works too.
For a lot of my connections, they need to be quick but meaningful. That has been a hard transition when sometimes you get more time with children in a classroom setting. I work with around 100 students across the county. Not only am I building connections with members, but I am also building relationships with their parents and family members as well.
For me, I try my best to get to know each individual the best I can. If I have time to spend with them, that is when I take the chance to connect with them or their family members.
1. How was your evening? 2. What are your plans for spring break? 3. How is your day going?
I ask any of these questions throughout my day to my different sections. The first one gets asked after I take attendance, and we talk about our evenings. Was there a game, how did it go, some had to work or they will talk about what they had for supper. We are coming up on spring break, and this is a common question that gets asked. They will mention that they have practice or have to work but then will repeat the question to me. Towards the end of the day we will have a conversation about the day, they may try a quick response, but I will ask them to tell me more about why it is good or bad, or what happened. I think these simple questions help me get to know my students for things other than in the classroom but they also know that I care about them, other than their grade in class.
1. Do you have a favorite article of clothing? This would be a simple conversation starter. It feels like a question I would ask in the morning. Maybe they are wearing their favorite shirt. Maybe their favorite shirt was dirty so they couldn't wear it. This is a question with many possible follow ups for me to get to know the student better. 2. What did you do well today? Reflection is a powerful tool for all of us. I would ask this at the end of the day. Hopefully, the students could answer it with pride. It would be a great discussion starter and a way for the student to think back on their day with a sense of accomplishment. I also enjoy hearing what they did well that day. 3. What was fun at recess today? I would ask this after recess or at the end of the day. Learning about what students do in their free time can tell me a lot about them. Its a great question to get to know their interests.
1. How was your weekend? Did you do anything special? I teach at a Huttertite Colony school. There are some weekends when my students get to go somewhere, maybe to a grandparents. This doesn't happen very often. So, when they do get to go somewhere it is a big deal. 2. I may ask the boys about their "new jobs" they received? Each year in the spring the boys rotate their jobs around the colony. The younger boys are generally in the garden, The others usually rotate around, the shops, cattle, hogs, turkeys, mowing, etc.. It's interesting to hear about their lives and jobs. 3. What was the best/worst part of your day? There are days I have given this as an "Exit Slip" just to find out what has worked well in the room. What did the kids enjoy and should we do more of certain activities again? or what didn't work that maybe we should alter or somehow fix.
At the start of Literacy class, I present a question to the students and we "Koosh." We toss around a Koosh ball and the students have an opportunity to share their answer. This gives them the chance to talk and get some energy out before class starts. I've noticed that very few participate at the beginning of the year, but by mid year, most of them join in. We even have the adults in the room answer and the kids love that! Then at the end of the year, I have them fill out a questionarie and almost all kids talk about how they love to Koosh! Another question that I might ask, at the end of the day, is, "what is one good thing that happened today?" I feel like this would be a nice way to wrap up our day and look for the positives. I find myself being drained at the end of the day because we have some hard days. This might help turn my mindset around as well. Another thing I do is great students in the morning at the door. A question I could ask them as they walk into my room is, "how are you feeling today?" This would show them that they are "seen" right away and it give me a chance to read their "temperature" for the morning. This was a good reflection and I am excited to try these ideas with my students!
I would ask the following questions during PRIDE -this is our study hall class, where we have about 10-12 students. This allows us to spend more 1:1 time with them and really get to know them)
#1: What do you like/ not like about health class. What topic do you want to learn about, that I did not teach this year?
#2: What are your goals/ dreams for the future? Do you have big goals bs small goals?
#3: How are you feeling this week? How is life at school? How is life at home?
1. What is something that we can do to be a good friend today? I could ask this when conflicts come up with my students. My students usually have issues that need to be resolved after recess. Or I could ask this before they go outside to try and minimize issues. 2. Why did you choose to draw today during center time? I could ask this when I am interacting with them at center time. This would allow them to share their interests with me. 3. What was your favorite part of the school day today? I could ask them this before we leave for the day. We have some time together before dismissing. It would give them an opportunity to share about the good things that had happened during the day.
The biggest reason I stay involved with the school substitute teaching is stay connected with the students. I love to get to know the students so when I see them playing a sport or outside of school, I can connect with them. Question 1: I ask questions regarding their extracurricular activities. What's the game plan for tonight? How do you feel about the game? Question 2: With the seniors, I ask about their future plans. Are they working or attending college? Question 3: Also, when subbing sometimes students get done early with their work, and I like to play "would you rather". It's fun, keeps them entertained and helps to get to know them.
Question 1: What was one thing that went really well and/or good today? What was a positive from today? Question 2: What is one thing you want to do better tomorrow? Question 3: Who made you smile today?
When checking out with students at the end of the day or during their check ins throughout their school day, I like to ask what is something that is going well. This opens they door for them to share what they truly think went well/was good to them for the day. When we talk about what they want to do better tomorrow it could be as simple as remembering something for school or a further conversation for a behavior they may have had during the day. They expect questions 1 and 2 every day and are always prepared to answer. It might be a short conversation or a 3-5 minutes conversation depending on however the student wants to respond. Most of the time, they share a behavior area from their day they want to improve on for the next day and it is a lead into our conversation about how their day went. If they don't address it then we review it at another time.
I could improve on how I ask students questions, as I have been guilty of questions like "How are you doing?" 1) One of the questions I could ask is "What did you do well during the game?" I like to ask students how their extracurricular activities went. Being more specific about what they did well or what they would like to improve could make the conversation more meaningful and better demonstrate my interest in seeing them succeed outside of school. 2) "What careers are you interested in pursuing after high school?" As we get closer to graduation, I like to check in with seniors and see what they are planning to do after graduation. I think this is more specific than "What are you doing after high school?" It also gives me a chance to hear some of the ideas that students have for life after high school. 3) "What was the best part of your weekend?" I often like to ask students how their weekend was and although I am stealing this from the video, this is a much better question to get a conversation going and form connections with students.
1. One question I frequently ask to check in with my students (especially if they are off task or not doing what they are supposed to be doing) is, “Are you okay?” These three words are very powerful and I’ve been using them for over 20 years. I ask this question within my classroom setting. This question does two things-one, it lets students know I’m aware of their behavior choices and two-it lets them know that I care and that I’m checking on them (they are being seen). Students may be making poor choices because they are not ok and this is an opportunity for me to help them express themselves with confidence and clarity so they can get back on track.
2. A question I’m going to start asking more is, “ How can I support you in this moment?” This question will help me communicate more during writer workshop and math rotations. Asking this type of question will help me communicate with intention-letting students know that I see and celebrate their progress and that I’m there to support them as they continue to grow. The answers I’ll receive after asking this question will help me support each student with the specific skills that they need.
3. Another question I’m going to start asking more is what was the best part of your day? I think it would be a good idea to rotate through my students the last 5 minutes of this day with this question. Invite a different student every day up to my desk and ask them this particular question. This type of question will help me better understand what they are thinking, what they are feeling, and maybe even what they want.
The deeper the questions, the stronger connections.
As a school counselor and I am sensing that a kid is feeling overwhelmed, I ask them, What do you do in your free time? Knowing that they don’t have much free time so hopefully they realize just how much they have on their plate and maybe they need to make some changes. Like having only 2 after school jobs instead of 3. When I teach driver’s education at schools that I don’t know the kids, I will ask them to tell me about the activities that they are involve in. It seems to get the kids to relax before we start driving. When I am helping kids with college questions, I will ask them if money isn’t an issue, where would they like to go to college? And why that school?
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
1. At the end of class (elementary PE when students are in line), I will ask my students, "what was your favorite part of the game? Why was it your favorite part?" 2. After a game is played for the first time I will ask my students, (when we are huddled up) "is this a game that you would want to play again? Why or Why not? 3. While students are in line waiting for their teacher to come pick them up, I will usually go up to a few students and ask them, "What are your plans after school today? Are you looking forward to anything?"
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
Since my role in my district requires me to move around so much, it is tough to build "lasting" relationships unless they keep at that school for long term. I have build and get to know students the best that I can while at school. It is tough, because when you build those relationships and aren't able to be there, you lose all the work that you put into that relationship. Here are some questions that I ask.
1. What is your favorite thing to do outside of school? 2. What is something that makes you feel happy? 3. What is something that has made you smile this week?
Yes, these questions are pretty easy for them to answer, most of the time. It breaks the ice to ask more in depth questions as I continue to work with that student. Sometimes if I am short on time I let them talk about something that has made them happy that day or over the weekend. Letting them talk about themselves helps with getting to know students as well as building that relationship.
To build stronger connections, I will greet my students at the door and ask them to share one good thing or one frustration from their day to establish immediate, personal contact. During the lesson, I will ask for their input on a neutral topic, such as a school debate or a hobby, to show that I value their perspective outside of their grade. Finally, I will use the last few minutes of class to ask what they are doing after school to learn about their interests and show that I care about their lives beyond the classroom.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?
1) At arrival time: How are you feeling this morning and why do you feel this way? We have 20 minutes in the morning of choice time prior to taking attendance. This is a time to connect and establish a strong start.
2) At snack time: In all honesty, I use snack time as a time for them to talk and for me to get a couple things done. Instead, I could provide conversation starters for kindergartners to talk with their table mates as well as me about. The importance of this is building their communication skills and valuing their opinions about different things. This was a good video and I really enjoyed the part that she talked about how we all just say we are doing good and some times that is the truth but at other times it is not the current situation.
3) What do you like to do at home? This establishes the importance of home to school connection and that I care about them when they are not at school.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
1. For students who arrive tardy: (We have our arts classes 1st each morning, so when they arrive it's just me in the room.) Once I make sure to tell them I'm glad they are here, I will ask if they are feeling ready for the day. Their face will usually answer before their voice. I have asked, "How are you feeling about being here today? Are you fed, do you need a quick visit?" My hope is to make them feel ok about being in school even if it was a rough start. Sometimes I will ask them what they are looking forward to or what they're working on in the arts class they're about to join.
2. I like to find out about their interests/activities early on in the year. This allows me to ask about these activities and so often I find out something I didn't know. One year I had a student who was very involved in dressage! I like to ask about the things they do with friends outside of school, or special family activities.
3. At the end of our day before the bell one of my favorite questions to ask is "What are you grateful for?" It can be about how their day went, something they are just generally thankful for, or perhaps something they are looking forward to. I hope to remind them that there is always something to be grateful for. Sometimes kids are grateful the day is over, and that's ok too!
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
1. I use a daily email right away in the morning called, The First Five, to guide my questions each morning. It is put out by edtommorrow. It is a great way to ask a variety of questions to students. There are questions ranging from shallow to deep. I find that I often can dig deeper with their responses, or those responses lead to further questions from myself or their peers. There is a junior, primary, and secondary version to view each day. These questions area usually for them to express what their opinion is on a topic, a food or maybe toy they enjoy. It can be almost anything. It It is fun to hear their opinions and express their individuality. They don't just pick the same answers as their neighbors. They truly think about and express their personal opinions.
2. The question I feel is most valuable is asked through a graphic to rate how they are feeling that day. I can get a good idea if something went wrong the night before, or the morning of school that I need to be aware of.
3. The third question I value and use is, "Why are you feeling that way?" is a very important follow up question if they want to share. This gives myself and their peers an idea of what they are going through whether it is a struggle or something exciting happening in their lives
Three questions I could use with my students to build stronger connections are:
First, “What was the best part of your day today?” I would ask this at the beginning or end of class as students are arriving or getting ready to leave. This shifts the usual “how was your day” response into something more reflective and specific. It also gives students space to share something positive and opens the door for natural follow-up conversations where I can better understand what stands out to them in their school experience.
Second, “What is something you’re really into right now that I might not know about you?” I would use this during casual conversations, advisory periods, or individual check-ins. This question encourages students to share interests, hobbies, or parts of their identity that may not always show up in the classroom, helping me avoid assumptions and get to know them more fully.
Third, “What’s one thing I could do to better support you in this class right now?” I would ask this during mid-unit reflections, conferences, or after assessments. It communicates that their voice matters and allows me to adjust my teaching in ways that better meet their needs.
Overall, the video highlights that strong relationships are built through curiosity and with purpose. I think that some of these questions and from what I have read throughout the blog help show students that we are being authentic and genuinely care about their response. Showing them that and then following through on what we find out I think go a long way in building trust.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
Every morning I start the day doing a morning meeting with my students. I get an email each day called the First Five. It has different levels of questions each day. Some are shallow questions, middle questions and those that are more open ended called First Five Favorites. I ask the questions and students can respond. Most of them like the harder questions that make them think. Today's question was What is one thing in school you want to get better at? It was amazing how the students responded to this. They could explain exactly why they were answering the way they did. Another slide always does a check in with them on how they are feeling. After they pick the number or graphic that says how they're feeling we spend some time discussing the one they picked and why they picked that. I really learn a lot about how my students are feeling right away in the morning. When the students are leaving at the end of the day, I ask them to tell me how they would rate the day. Sometimes we talk about good things that happened or some things they didn't like about the day. We also discuss how we can make tomorrow better. It really gives the students time to reflect on how the day went and if anything needs to be changed.
I used to journal with my students in 5th grade and in kindergarten. One question that I would ask to journal about is, "Tell me about one of your pets or if you do not have a pet, tell me what animal that you would like to have as a pet and describe it?". The kids loved to talk about their pets- a big smile would come instantly, or the kids would be giggling while writing.
When my kids leave for school in the morning, I sometimes challenge them to make someone smile that day, after school I will ask my kids to tell me about the someone that they made smile today? How did you make them smile and how do you feel about that interaction now?
In my kindergarten classroom when I would talk about my family to my students, I would describe my husband to the class. I would be extremely silly in my description and would tell the students that he is my favorite person. I would give example of something funny he did or tell a story about him. The students would in return ask questions all the time about Mr. Haines. However, when we talked about our families, we would do this in a big circle and go around sharing about one of our favorite people from their family. Each student would get to share, and I could take note on who each person said and could ask about that person every so often. Tell me a time when your had fun with your favorite person- if I could remember their person's name, it was even better.
1. What did you do after school yesterday? - I would ask them this question as they are coming into the room each morning. I feel this question shows them that I care about more then just school and I do truly care about them as individuals. This can also help me in teaching when I want to make things more meaningful I can spin the content in a way that matters to them.
ReplyDelete2. How are you feeling this morning? - I ask this question as students are coming into the classroom in the morning. I would not ask every student this. I ask the ones whom I notice have a look on their face that says "something is bothering me" or "something seems off". I feel that by asking this question it shows them that I care about them. I can then ask "What can I do to help you?" After discussing with them I can maybe make their day go a little better then how it started.
3. What was the best part of your day? Asking this question really lets you know what is important to each of your students. It is also can be a great motivator to let them do this specific thing more as long as they get their work done etc.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDelete1) What has been a highlight of your weekend or week so far?
2) What do you like do to do in your free time?
3) If you could travel anywhere in the world and with whoever you wanted, where and who would it be and why?
These questions build connections because it helps to better understand who they are as individuals by figuring out things they like to do, their interests, and to give us a better understanding of how they communicate with others. I would be asking these questions either when students come to see me in my office or if I'm in a classroom. These questions also work for all age groups with both elementary, middle and high schoolers, as well as conversations can then transpire as a result of the students' answer which further builds that rapport and trust with them.
I’m really working hard with my preschoolers to use full sentences when answering or asking questions. Asking better open ended questions will continue to help me with this.
ReplyDeleteMonday morning: What was the best part of your weekend?
This gives each child an opportunity to share what they did, practice speaking in full sentences, and feel like an important part of our class.
After a story: Tell me about your favorite part of the story? This will also help me to hear how they comprehended the story that was just read to them.
After PE class: What was the best part of PE today? Can you tell me more about it?
Telling others about an activity can help you understand it better.
With my age group/skill level, sometimes I fall into the habit of asking very basic yes/no questions instead of more open questions. I also recognize that sometimes I fall too much into my daily routines and forget to take the time to pause and ask questions.
ReplyDelete1. For our snack time, each student has a placemat that has pictures of their families on it. We use this as a tool to learn more about their families and home lives. Some more meaningful questions I can ask during this time would be "what games do you like to play with your brother" "what is best food your mom or dad makes for you" "what do you like to do when you get home from school or daycare"?
2. During arrival and locker routines (getting off transportation, waiting for the whole class to arrive, getting our things put away in lockers, etc.) I make a point to say greet every student. I say hello and let them know I'm happy to see them today. Asking more questions during this routine would help me start the class off on an even more positive note with each student. I hope that they could feel that I genuinely care about their life outside of school. Some questions I could add to this time of connection could be "what did you eat for breakfast" "did you talk with anyone on the bus ride here and what did you talk about" "what did you do last night with your family"?
3. Our transition from recess back into the classroom can sometimes feel hectic. Slowing down and talking with the students before starting the next thing on the schedule could help them regulate their emotions and calm down before having to sit down for snack or circle time. Some questions I could ask here are "who did you play with at recess" "what games did you play" "did you go down the slide or play on the swings"
1. One thing I do in my classroom to build relationships with students is a Friday Letter. Students have journals and every Friday they must write a letter to me. I often ask them to write about the following topics: What was your favorite part of the week? What are your plans this weekend? What are you looking forward to? Basically, they can write about anything. Then, I write a letter back to them in response! I really enjoy doing this because I get to learn their interests and activities outside of school. They often ask me questions in their writing, so I respond to those and ask questions back.
ReplyDelete2. To gain a general understanding of students and their prior knowledge, I often find myself asking students, “Have you ever heard…?” It could be something relating to our content or something relating to everyday life. It usually results in them telling me stories of when they may have heard the phrase/content before.
3. I teach my students life skills, so I like to ask them questions like, “When would you use this in life?” or “How have you shown….” It gets the conversations flowing.
I try to find opportunities throughout the day to get to know my students better through basic questions. I also like to share my own personal life experiences with them too. During my first couple of years as a teacher, I always felt uncomfortable sharing too much of my life outside of school with my students. But as I am now in my 15th year of teaching and have had many life experiences since then, I enjoy sharing details of my life every chance I get. The students can relate to it because they know my kids, so sometimes that gets them to ask more follow-up questions.
When someone is struggling with a concept in a subject I have asked everyone to share what the hardest part of this concept. Then we talk about the issues for each person. Doing it this way everyone shares and everyone shares something that is hard.
ReplyDeleteTell me more about that. Not really a question but when a student is talking and you say tell me more about that they know that they have your attention and can share more information.
When we have down time in classes that I am subbing in I will ask a question for students to answer. It is usually something to the effect of their favorite food, favorite thing to do in a specific season, sport, and such. I feel that doing this and having everyone answer and listen while everyone answers has built relationships between me and the students and also student to student. There has been a number of times that when a student says their answer others in the class will say oh yeah I like that too and I didn't know that you did!
I have a short 15 minutes with each reading group I support. I will base my questions on connecting with them in their academic journey. Instead of just moving on to the next group once the lesson is complete I can ask the following questions:
ReplyDelete1. What is something you feel proud of during our time reading together?
2. Is there any part of today's time reading that was hard for you?
3. The last question may be one of randomness to engage in their personal lives more or open it to them to ask anything of me.
Sorry, forgot to change the drop down menu above to Natalie Graumann
DeleteAs a high school, School Counselor I would to address the three School Counseling domains when answering this question.
ReplyDeleteOne academic question I would ask is, “When you think about this class right now, what feels manageable and what feels overwhelming?” I would ask this during an individual academic meeting in my office. The purpose of this question is to move beyond grades and assignments and better understand how the student is experiencing their learning. This question communicates that I am not just interested in performance, but in their process and emotional experience. By listening closely and asking follow up questions, I can gather more meaningful information and help the student feel supported.
A career focused question I would ask is, “When you imagine yourself a few years after high school, or even in ten years, what do you imagine a day in your life looking like” I would ask this during a career exploration meeting or post-high planning meeting. I would do so without implying pressure to have everything figured out about the future. I would ask it with curiosity and openness, making it clear that this is not about having a final answer. This question helps students think beyond job titles and instead focus on values, interests, and other things of importance to them. It often leads to richer conversations about strengths, passions, goals, and fears. Asking this question builds connection because it shows genuine interest in who the student is becoming, not just what they plan to do.
A social and emotional question I would ask is, “Who is one person you feel most like yourself around, and what about that relationship makes it feel safe?” I would ask this during a one on one conversation with a student. The question may arise when a student is struggling socially or emotionally. I would ask it gently and at a pace that feels comfortable for the student, paying close attention to body language and tone. The purpose of this question is to help the student reflect on connection and belonging. It also opens the door to conversations about trust, support systems, and safety. By actively listening and responding with empathy, this question helps strengthen the relationship and gives insight into what the student needs in order to feel connected and regulated.
These types of questions reflect the importance of confidence, clarity, and intentional listening discussed in both the book and the TEDx talk. When we ask thoughtful questions and truly listen to the answers, we build deeper connections and gain a more accurate understanding of our students. That connection is what allows real growth to happen.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDelete1. What did you do last night. This helps students feel what they do is important. It also help me find books of interest and writing projects that improve their interested. It also helps me read students expression. If it was not good, I need to take it into consideration on performance, along with letting them know I am here for them if they want to talk.
2.What is a big dream or goal you have for the future? Great time to explain the right path to make their dream and goals happen, before it is to late. It is a good time to connect them with a person that is doing what their dream or career they want to do.
3. What makes you not like school. It may be something simple we can do to change the students outcome of school. Most the time it is something simple we can fix.
1. Whenever I see a kid wearing a sports jersey, band t-shirt, or any other article of clothing that hints that they like a certain kind of music or sports team, I always ask them something about it. An example would be when I see my student, Logan, wearing a University of Michigan sweatshirt and I ask him if he watched their basketball game last night. Or, if I there is a kid wearing a show choir shirt from school, I ask him or her how their last competition went. Questions like this help me establish relationships with kids in a more natural way. Sometimes, middle school students get freaked out if their teacher asks them deep and complicated questions about their performance in school or the future.
ReplyDelete2. We do an activity in Spanish called Student Interviews. I call up two students to the front of the room and ask them a really easy yes or no question in Spanish (but I write an English translation on the board). One example would be 'do you have a dog'? I make a huge show out of their response regardless of their answer, and if the situation calls for it, I will ask one follow-up question. The students in the audience love it, and if you call up the right student, they love it too. Since it's in Spanish, it's relationship building disguised as an academic activity.
3. If I have a kid that is struggling in class, I sometimes ask them where they want to sit to help them focus better. It gives more agency to the student in their education, which is really good for students who have been defiant. It also shows that I care about their education.
1. “What’s something you’re into right now that most adults don’t know much about?”
ReplyDeleteI would ask this during the first weeks of a new semester. I could do this as an unexpected bell-ringer through a Google Forms "quiz." I would ask this because it shows them that they matter to me and that I want to get to know them better. I think that can help build trust.
2. “When do you feel most successful in school?”
I would ask this during the first week of a new semester as well. I would use a Google Form "quiz" for this one as well. I would ask them to tell me in detail in a couple of sentences. This shows that I care about who they are and that I might make an effort to help them how they often find success. It can also help me figure out new ways to help them.
3. “If I could change one thing about this class to help you learn better, what would it be?”
I would ask this question about 3-4 weeks into a new semester. I helps me build a relationship with each student by giving them an outlet for their opinions that have surely been building over the first few weeks. I lets them voice their opinions. I would use an anonymous Google Form for this one so that each student could feel empowered to speak the truth if things aren't going so well. This can also help build mutual respect, especially if issues are addressed. It shows humility as well.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDeleteHow is your day/weekend going?: I tend to do this when I notice if a student has been down or not acting like their typical self. I will usually ask them this in private because most times if it's in a bigger setting, many students will just say fine or they didn't do anything. It gives them a better opportunity to tell you what is on their mind.
What do you want to do after high school?: This has been a great conversation starter because many students have an idea of what they want to do, and showing interest in their future can be a game-changer for students and teacher relationships.
How do you learn best?: I do this in the beginning of the semester to help myself determine how to help students and for them to inform me what they do to be successful. This can also be helpful for other students who struggle as well.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDelete1.If I could change one thing about Math class for you to help you be more successful what would it be? I teach both math classes for our two section 3rd grade class. I also teach math interventions for students who are At Risk and Persistently At Risk for 3rd grade. I have asked this to a few of my students who have a harder time in math. One answer surprised me she asked for me to change where she sits because she can't see very well and that partner is always sharing first and not always giving her a chance. I specifically will take the time to ask this of each of my math intervention students and have them share with me individually the last minute of interventions after I have dismissed the rest of them. A lot of these students also struggle with writing, I know I will get more out of them if I ask them to share with me verbally.
2. Who inspires you to become a better writer? If they were in the room today, what would they tell you to help motivate you? I taught this 3rd grade class in 1st grade. They have as a whole struggled with reading, they made amazing progress in 2nd grade, and now the majority are doing fantastic in 3rd grade. We still have several students who struggle coming up with ideas to write about, taking the time to use the grammatical skills we have taught them to use in their writing, and taking their time to push themselves and care about how well they do on their journals or even the papers they have written this year for my co-teacher in Reading. This would be a great question to ask my students while they are independently working on their cursive or even during small group reading time.
3. What is something that you are really proud of from 3rd grade this year? While writing this blog post I'm inspired to ask this question this week as we go into conference week. I want to ask them on Monday so I can share with their grown ups on Tuesday and Thursday conferences. This time of year is hard for some students because as it starts to get warmer outside they lose motivation and I want them to see/help highlight what they are doing well to inspire them to keep working hard and trying as we wrap up the last 3 months of the school year.
“What was the best part of your day?” – I would ask this at the end of class, during our closing circle or transition time. This question helps me understand what experiences bring students joy and allows them to reflect on their day, while also giving me insight into their preferences and emotional state.
ReplyDelete“What do you like to play with at home, and who do you play with?” – I can ask this during free play or center time. It encourages students to share their interests and social experiences, helping me connect classroom activities to what they enjoy outside of school.
“How are you feeling today?” – Ask during morning circle or arrival time. Using visual emotion cards can help students express themselves. This builds emotional literacy and shows students that their feelings matter.
What’s something you’re excited about outside of school right now?
ReplyDeleteWhen & Where:
During the first few minutes of class, while students are settling in.
Why:
This question helps the teacher learn about students’ interests (sports, hobbies, events, family activities). It shows students that their lives outside the classroom matter, which builds trust and gives the teacher opportunities to connect lessons to student interests later.
What part of today’s lesson felt easiest for you, and what part was the most confusing?
When & Where:
At the end of a lesson or during an exit ticket before students leave class.
Why:
This question shows students that their understanding matters and that the teacher values their feedback. It also helps the teacher identify areas where students may need more support, while creating an environment where students feel safe admitting confusion.
What’s one goal you have for yourself this semester?
When & Where:
At the beginning of a new semester or during a one-on-one conference with a student.
Why:
This question encourages students to reflect on their own growth and aspirations. It helps the teacher understand what motivates each student and allows the teacher to support their academic or personal goals throughout the term.
I am in a position where it can sometimes be harder to connect with students. I am more like a guest speaker who pops in once a week. When I am not there consistently, I try my best to keep track of them on Facebook. If I have a parent on Facebook and I see them posting about their child doing something, that is where I can strike up conversations.
ReplyDeleteI also connect with them through projects since I have been the “project person.” It is easy to ask them how they are doing or if there is anything new. They will often ask what we are doing that day, and then I explain the project.
Some good questions to ask are: What are you most excited about with this project? Is this something you would like to do at home with your family? What are some projects you do at home?
That often leads to asking what they would like to do the next time I am there. This is where I can get creative and plan activities the kids like to do. A lot of times I get to be the fun person who comes in and doesn’t have to follow an exact lesson plan. I know I struggle more with connecting with the older kids.
I could start asking them more questions like: What are you excited for this summer? What are your plans after you graduate? What new skills have you learned while applying for scholarships or college? Do you need help improving any skills? And food usually works too.
For a lot of my connections, they need to be quick but meaningful. That has been a hard transition when sometimes you get more time with children in a classroom setting. I work with around 100 students across the county. Not only am I building connections with members, but I am also building relationships with their parents and family members as well.
For me, I try my best to get to know each individual the best I can. If I have time to spend with them, that is when I take the chance to connect with them or their family members.
1. How was your evening?
ReplyDelete2. What are your plans for spring break?
3. How is your day going?
I ask any of these questions throughout my day to my different sections. The first one gets asked after I take attendance, and we talk about our evenings. Was there a game, how did it go, some had to work or they will talk about what they had for supper. We are coming up on spring break, and this is a common question that gets asked. They will mention that they have practice or have to work but then will repeat the question to me. Towards the end of the day we will have a conversation about the day, they may try a quick response, but I will ask them to tell me more about why it is good or bad, or what happened. I think these simple questions help me get to know my students for things other than in the classroom but they also know that I care about them, other than their grade in class.
1. Do you have a favorite article of clothing?
ReplyDeleteThis would be a simple conversation starter. It feels like a question I would ask in the morning. Maybe they are wearing their favorite shirt. Maybe their favorite shirt was dirty so they couldn't wear it. This is a question with many possible follow ups for me to get to know the student better.
2. What did you do well today?
Reflection is a powerful tool for all of us. I would ask this at the end of the day. Hopefully, the students could answer it with pride. It would be a great discussion starter and a way for the student to think back on their day with a sense of accomplishment. I also enjoy hearing what they did well that day.
3. What was fun at recess today?
I would ask this after recess or at the end of the day. Learning about what students do in their free time can tell me a lot about them. Its a great question to get to know their interests.
1. How was your weekend? Did you do anything special? I teach at a Huttertite Colony school. There are some weekends when my students get to go somewhere, maybe to a grandparents. This doesn't happen very often. So, when they do get to go somewhere it is a big deal.
Delete2. I may ask the boys about their "new jobs" they received? Each year in the spring the boys rotate their jobs around the colony. The younger boys are generally in the garden, The others usually rotate around, the shops, cattle, hogs, turkeys, mowing, etc.. It's interesting to hear about their lives and jobs.
3. What was the best/worst part of your day? There are days I have given this as an "Exit Slip" just to find out what has worked well in the room. What did the kids enjoy and should we do more of certain activities again? or what didn't work that maybe we should alter or somehow fix.
At the start of Literacy class, I present a question to the students and we "Koosh." We toss around a Koosh ball and the students have an opportunity to share their answer. This gives them the chance to talk and get some energy out before class starts. I've noticed that very few participate at the beginning of the year, but by mid year, most of them join in. We even have the adults in the room answer and the kids love that! Then at the end of the year, I have them fill out a questionarie and almost all kids talk about how they love to Koosh!
DeleteAnother question that I might ask, at the end of the day, is, "what is one good thing that happened today?" I feel like this would be a nice way to wrap up our day and look for the positives. I find myself being drained at the end of the day because we have some hard days. This might help turn my mindset around as well.
Another thing I do is great students in the morning at the door. A question I could ask them as they walk into my room is, "how are you feeling today?" This would show them that they are "seen" right away and it give me a chance to read their "temperature" for the morning.
This was a good reflection and I am excited to try these ideas with my students!
I would ask the following questions during PRIDE -this is our study hall class, where we have about 10-12 students. This allows us to spend more 1:1 time with them and really get to know them)
ReplyDelete#1: What do you like/ not like about health class. What topic do you want to learn about, that I did not teach this year?
#2: What are your goals/ dreams for the future? Do you have big goals bs small goals?
#3: How are you feeling this week? How is life at school? How is life at home?
1. What is something that we can do to be a good friend today? I could ask this when conflicts come up with my students. My students usually have issues that need to be resolved after recess. Or I could ask this before they go outside to try and minimize issues.
ReplyDelete2. Why did you choose to draw today during center time? I could ask this when I am interacting with them at center time. This would allow them to share their interests with me.
3. What was your favorite part of the school day today? I could ask them this before we leave for the day. We have some time together before dismissing. It would give them an opportunity to share about the good things that had happened during the day.
The biggest reason I stay involved with the school substitute teaching is stay connected with the students. I love to get to know the students so when I see them playing a sport or outside of school, I can connect with them.
ReplyDeleteQuestion 1: I ask questions regarding their extracurricular activities. What's the game plan for tonight? How do you feel about the game?
Question 2: With the seniors, I ask about their future plans. Are they working or attending college?
Question 3: Also, when subbing sometimes students get done early with their work, and I like to play "would you rather". It's fun, keeps them entertained and helps to get to know them.
Question 1: What was one thing that went really well and/or good today? What was a positive from today?
ReplyDeleteQuestion 2: What is one thing you want to do better tomorrow?
Question 3: Who made you smile today?
When checking out with students at the end of the day or during their check ins throughout their school day, I like to ask what is something that is going well. This opens they door for them to share what they truly think went well/was good to them for the day. When we talk about what they want to do better tomorrow it could be as simple as remembering something for school or a further conversation for a behavior they may have had during the day. They expect questions 1 and 2 every day and are always prepared to answer. It might be a short conversation or a 3-5 minutes conversation depending on however the student wants to respond. Most of the time, they share a behavior area from their day they want to improve on for the next day and it is a lead into our conversation about how their day went. If they don't address it then we review it at another time.
I could improve on how I ask students questions, as I have been guilty of questions like "How are you doing?"
ReplyDelete1) One of the questions I could ask is "What did you do well during the game?" I like to ask students how their extracurricular activities went. Being more specific about what they did well or what they would like to improve could make the conversation more meaningful and better demonstrate my interest in seeing them succeed outside of school.
2) "What careers are you interested in pursuing after high school?" As we get closer to graduation, I like to check in with seniors and see what they are planning to do after graduation. I think this is more specific than "What are you doing after high school?" It also gives me a chance to hear some of the ideas that students have for life after high school.
3) "What was the best part of your weekend?" I often like to ask students how their weekend was and although I am stealing this from the video, this is a much better question to get a conversation going and form connections with students.
1. One question I frequently ask to check in with my students (especially if they are off task or not doing what they are supposed to be doing) is, “Are you okay?” These three words are very powerful and I’ve been using them for over 20 years. I ask this question within my classroom setting. This question does two things-one, it lets students know I’m aware of their behavior choices and two-it lets them know that I care and that I’m checking on them (they are being seen). Students may be making poor choices because they are not ok and this is an opportunity for me to help them express themselves with confidence and clarity so they can get back on track.
ReplyDelete2. A question I’m going to start asking more is, “ How can I support you in this moment?” This question will help me communicate more during writer workshop and math rotations. Asking this type of question will help me communicate with intention-letting students know that I see and celebrate their progress and that I’m there to support them as they continue to grow. The answers I’ll receive after asking this question will help me support each student with the specific skills that they need.
3. Another question I’m going to start asking more is what was the best part of your day? I think it would be a good idea to rotate through my students the last 5 minutes of this day with this question. Invite a different student every day up to my desk and ask them this particular question. This type of question will help me better understand what they are thinking, what they are feeling, and maybe even what they want.
The deeper the questions, the stronger connections.
As a school counselor and I am sensing that a kid is feeling overwhelmed, I ask them,
ReplyDeleteWhat do you do in your free time? Knowing that they don’t have much free time so hopefully they realize just how much they have on their plate and maybe they need to make some changes. Like having only 2 after school jobs instead of 3.
When I teach driver’s education at schools that I don’t know the kids, I will ask them to tell me about the activities that they are involve in. It seems to get the kids to relax before we start driving.
When I am helping kids with college questions, I will ask them if money isn’t an issue, where would they like to go to college? And why that school?
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDelete1. At the end of class (elementary PE when students are in line), I will ask my students, "what was your favorite part of the game? Why was it your favorite part?"
2. After a game is played for the first time I will ask my students, (when we are huddled up) "is this a game that you would want to play again? Why or Why not?
3. While students are in line waiting for their teacher to come pick them up, I will usually go up to a few students and ask them, "What are your plans after school today? Are you looking forward to anything?"
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDeleteSince my role in my district requires me to move around so much, it is tough to build "lasting" relationships unless they keep at that school for long term. I have build and get to know students the best that I can while at school. It is tough, because when you build those relationships and aren't able to be there, you lose all the work that you put into that relationship. Here are some questions that I ask.
1. What is your favorite thing to do outside of school?
2. What is something that makes you feel happy?
3. What is something that has made you smile this week?
Yes, these questions are pretty easy for them to answer, most of the time. It breaks the ice to ask more in depth questions as I continue to work with that student. Sometimes if I am short on time I let them talk about something that has made them happy that day or over the weekend. Letting them talk about themselves helps with getting to know students as well as building that relationship.
To build stronger connections, I will greet my students at the door and ask them to share one good thing or one frustration from their day to establish immediate, personal contact. During the lesson, I will ask for their input on a neutral topic, such as a school debate or a hobby, to show that I value their perspective outside of their grade. Finally, I will use the last few minutes of class to ask what they are doing after school to learn about their interests and show that I care about their lives beyond the classroom.
ReplyDeleteGive 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?
ReplyDelete1) At arrival time: How are you feeling this morning and why do you feel this way? We have 20 minutes in the morning of choice time prior to taking attendance. This is a time to connect and establish a strong start.
2) At snack time: In all honesty, I use snack time as a time for them to talk and for me to get a couple things done. Instead, I could provide conversation starters for kindergartners to talk with their table mates as well as me about. The importance of this is building their communication skills and valuing their opinions about different things.
This was a good video and I really enjoyed the part that she talked about how we all just say we are doing good and some times that is the truth but at other times it is not the current situation.
3) What do you like to do at home? This establishes the importance of home to school connection and that I care about them when they are not at school.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDelete1. For students who arrive tardy: (We have our arts classes 1st each morning, so when they arrive it's just me in the room.) Once I make sure to tell them I'm glad they are here, I will ask if they are feeling ready for the day. Their face will usually answer before their voice. I have asked, "How are you feeling about being here today? Are you fed, do you need a quick visit?" My hope is to make them feel ok about being in school even if it was a rough start. Sometimes I will ask them what they are looking forward to or what they're working on in the arts class they're about to join.
2. I like to find out about their interests/activities early on in the year. This allows me to ask about these activities and so often I find out something I didn't know. One year I had a student who was very involved in dressage! I like to ask about the things they do with friends outside of school, or special family activities.
3. At the end of our day before the bell one of my favorite questions to ask is "What are you grateful for?" It can be about how their day went, something they are just generally thankful for, or perhaps something they are looking forward to. I hope to remind them that there is always something to be grateful for. Sometimes kids are grateful the day is over, and that's ok too!
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDelete1. I use a daily email right away in the morning called, The First Five, to guide my questions each morning. It is put out by edtommorrow. It is a great way to ask a variety of questions to students. There are questions ranging from shallow to deep. I find that I often can dig deeper with their responses, or those responses lead to further questions from myself or their peers. There is a junior, primary, and secondary version to view each day. These questions area usually for them to express what their opinion is on a topic, a food or maybe toy they enjoy. It can be almost anything. It It is fun to hear their opinions and express their individuality. They don't just pick the same answers as their neighbors. They truly think about and express their personal opinions.
2. The question I feel is most valuable is asked through a graphic to rate how they are feeling that day. I can get a good idea if something went wrong the night before, or the morning of school that I need to be aware of.
3. The third question I value and use is, "Why are you feeling that way?" is a very important follow up question if they want to share. This gives myself and their peers an idea of what they are going through whether it is a struggle or something exciting happening in their lives
Three questions I could use with my students to build stronger connections are:
ReplyDeleteFirst, “What was the best part of your day today?” I would ask this at the beginning or end of class as students are arriving or getting ready to leave. This shifts the usual “how was your day” response into something more reflective and specific. It also gives students space to share something positive and opens the door for natural follow-up conversations where I can better understand what stands out to them in their school experience.
Second, “What is something you’re really into right now that I might not know about you?” I would use this during casual conversations, advisory periods, or individual check-ins. This question encourages students to share interests, hobbies, or parts of their identity that may not always show up in the classroom, helping me avoid assumptions and get to know them more fully.
Third, “What’s one thing I could do to better support you in this class right now?” I would ask this during mid-unit reflections, conferences, or after assessments. It communicates that their voice matters and allows me to adjust my teaching in ways that better meet their needs.
Overall, the video highlights that strong relationships are built through curiosity and with purpose. I think that some of these questions and from what I have read throughout the blog help show students that we are being authentic and genuinely care about their response. Showing them that and then following through on what we find out I think go a long way in building trust.
Give 3 examples of questions you could ask your students to build better connections with them. Please provide context for these questions. (When and where are you asking them this? How? Why?)
ReplyDeleteEvery morning I start the day doing a morning meeting with my students. I get an email each day called the First Five. It has different levels of questions each day. Some are shallow questions, middle questions and those that are more open ended called First Five Favorites. I ask the questions and students can respond. Most of them like the harder questions that make them think. Today's question was What is one thing in school you want to get better at? It was amazing how the students responded to this. They could explain exactly why they were answering the way they did.
Another slide always does a check in with them on how they are feeling. After they pick the number or graphic that says how they're feeling we spend some time discussing the one they picked and why they picked that. I really learn a lot about how my students are feeling right away in the morning.
When the students are leaving at the end of the day, I ask them to tell me how they would rate the day. Sometimes we talk about good things that happened or some things they didn't like about the day. We also discuss how we can make tomorrow better. It really gives the students time to reflect on how the day went and if anything needs to be changed.
I used to journal with my students in 5th grade and in kindergarten. One question that I would ask to journal about is, "Tell me about one of your pets or if you do not have a pet, tell me what animal that you would like to have as a pet and describe it?". The kids loved to talk about their pets- a big smile would come instantly, or the kids would be giggling while writing.
ReplyDeleteWhen my kids leave for school in the morning, I sometimes challenge them to make someone smile that day, after school I will ask my kids to tell me about the someone that they made smile today? How did you make them smile and how do you feel about that interaction now?
In my kindergarten classroom when I would talk about my family to my students, I would describe my husband to the class. I would be extremely silly in my description and would tell the students that he is my favorite person. I would give example of something funny he did or tell a story about him. The students would in return ask questions all the time about Mr. Haines. However, when we talked about our families, we would do this in a big circle and go around sharing about one of our favorite people from their family. Each student would get to share, and I could take note on who each person said and could ask about that person every so often. Tell me a time when your had fun with your favorite person- if I could remember their person's name, it was even better.